Importance of Setting Boundaries
You are a mom, wife, daughter of immigrants and a successful professional woman working full-time. You wear many hats in life and have many daily tasks that feel like they never end. Consciously setting boundaries can help ensure your mental and physical health. As written in my previous blog, I highly recommend hiring a therapist to delve into this further. My one-on-one coaching sessions, can also help you expose areas in your life where boundaries are needed.
As a recovering overachieving woman of color, it is very difficult for me to set boundaries. However, I’m striving to do so for two reasons:
Peace
The more boundaries I have, the more peaceful my life is. This peace follows when I reduce the resentment and anger that come with doing too much. Taking on task after task that I do not truly want to do or cannot manage, is not helpful. You may be thinking, “Well, I actually want to do everything on my list.” I respond by asking, “Do you have to do all of it now?” The answer is rarely yes.
My subconscious and natural disposition is to bite off more than I can chew. From being the perfect wife, mom, attorney, author, businesswoman, professor, friend and daughter, my list goes on and on. However, satisfaction rarely follows. Once I achieve one thing, I take little time to bask in my accomplishments, but instead I set out for the next. This cycle is exhausting.
Setting boundaries can increase the peace. Possible blow up or burnout is beneficial to no one. How can you set better boundaries in your life today?
Self-care
Having a calendar on my phone filled with a schedule that leaves little to no time for me is also not helpful. Setting boundaries helps to make me mindful of my time and what is important to me.
Moms, lets value our worth not only for the things we do, but also for who we are. Let’s not lose ourselves in this journey. As they say in airplanes, put your mask on first because in doing so more people are helped. Set boundaries and start now.
Schedule a one-on-one coaching session here and let’s use writing to help expose areas in your life boundaries are needed. Also, purchase my book Cactus Fruit here, where I used poetry to expose my own truth and set boundaries.
